Monday, April 09, 2007

Moral Responsibility

I have this friend, see...
She can't make up her mind between the guy she's been dating forever, and the guy she can't seem to shake, who happens to be married with children. My dad and I are friends with all three unfortunate individuals in this love triangle. She hops partners so fast it makes my head spin.
I can't believe that her boyfriend keeps taking her back, after she has time and again betrayed him and publicly gone around town with this married man, who also used to be her boyfriend's best friend. (Yes, like sand through the hourglass...these are the Days of Our Lives!)
So I had a party at my house yesterday, and she was invited. She brought her lover to my house instead of her "boyfriend". I didn't know what my moral responsibility was in this situation. I wished I had a Christian version of Dear Abby to pose the question to. I felt like I didn't want this female friend in my house, flouting the concept of family and marriage and fidelity on the most holy day of the Christian calendar (or any other day, for that matter!)
But she had been invited and told she could bring guests. I couldn't very well kick her out, for I was the hostess, and she had also brought her teenage son along with his girlfriend, and they were nice and polite young people. I still don't know what I should have done, or how I should react to her in the future. I feel like the next time I see her back with her original boyfriend, I will scream. But if I see her out with her "other" guy, I will not want to talk to them at all.
Am I making too big a deal out of this? I know that in society, people would say this is really 'none of my business'. But if these people are my friends, and I have to communicate with them and be around them, and they bring their sordid affairs into my house...it BECOMES my business.
*sigh* What's a girl to do?

1 comment:

Paul said...

Interesting problem....

First of all, I think of 1 Cor. 5, where it deals with sexual immorality and mentions the case of those outside of the church and says that the imperative not to associate with the sexually immoral definitely does not apply to unbelievers. God will judge those outside the church. So I think as a Christian you don't have any moral responsibility to confront this immoral behavior.

As a friend, I think it is up to you. You may want to have a personal conversation to bring up the question. That seems preferable to ejecting anyone from a party....

That's my 0.02 USD anyway.